I imagine you have heard many of the “three guys walk into a bar” jokes out there. This isn’t one of them.
As odd as it may sound I have learned something from each of these three that has changed my life.
One of them is my mentor.
I’ll start with Stephen King.
Anyone who knows me would think it was odd that I would learn something from this well-known author.
I’ve had tremendous issues with fear throughout my life so I always avoided the horror genre.
Before I learned my lesson from him, I knew nothing about Mr. King other than he wrote books I wouldn’t read, and he was wildly famous.
Then I came across Jeff Goins, a writer who wrote about Mr. King in his book The Art of Work.
He talked about Mr. King’s desk.
Apparently, Mr. King bought a ginormous desk and placed it in the center of his study where he worked.
However, over time he came to the realization that he needed to change the desk situation to change his life.
He got rid of the large desk and purchased a smaller one. This smaller desk he put in the corner of the room to change his focus.
In his book On Writing: A Memoir Of The Craft he says:
“It starts with this: put your desk in the corner,
and every time you sit down there to write, remind yourself why it isn’t in the middle of the room.
Life isn’t a support system for art. It’s the other way around.”
I took last week off of writing and focused on my family as well as did some soul searching.
This past week I “moved my desk”.
Actually, the desk is in the same place but my laptop that I had been keeping in the kitchen was moved upstairs to the desk. I am already quite pleased with how it is changing how I work.
Thank you, Stephen King, I may need to buy your book.
Next up is Howie Mandel.
I have always had an appreciation for Howie.
I think he’s funny.
This year my husband and I started watching America’s Got Talent. We’ve have been enjoying playing our part in the process to help people achieve their dreams.
Last week I was saddened as two acts I loved didn’t make it to the finals and a couple I was not so fond of did.
Oh well, that is how it goes. It is voting. It is the voice of the people.
And it is commonly preached out there that if you want to be successful and profitable you have to make the people happy and give them what they want.
Then what Howie Mandel said to one of the finalists Grace VanderWaal really rocked that message and touched me deeply.
He told her that her world would never be the same again.
He cautioned her that as she moves forward and becomes successful people will pressure her to change. He instructed her to remain true to herself and stay who she is.
Not let the pressure change her.
Those words fly in the face of the marketing message out there.
I needed to hear it.
If you are new to my writing, I had started a blog in 2013 and abandoned it that same year. This past April I returned to it with this post And Then It Was The Next Day.
I was scared and very green.
I have consumed mass quantities of information via blogs, books, newsletters, instructional videos, podcasts, webinars and more to learn and grow in my writing as well as marketing.
I have been so thankful for all the help available. There is so much to learn.
But along with all the help, I also discovered there is much pressure out there also.
I have struggled under some of it trying to do everything everyone has been telling me to do and remain true to myself. I have read and seen so many succeed in ways I have expected of myself but then understood how they have done things differently or have different goals.
But still, that elusive “success” dangles like a carrot tempting and taunting, then condemning even the best efforts, as not good enough.
Enter Howie’s words to Grace.
“Your world is never going to be the same. You must never change.”
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In 2014 I self-published my first book.
I learned as I went.
I had no clue what to do when I began.
I simply started.
“Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don’t stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just… start.”
― Ijeoma Umebinyuo
It was a journey to put my story into words.
I didn’t have a book launching plan.
I was terrified to allow anyone to read it.
Promoting it was beyond my ability grasp. It was first released May 7th 2014.
I knew my world would never be the same again.
Since then I have retired that first edition and released an updated version. I have come to understand the value of my story and have begun the journey of marketing. It is now available on Kindle also.
Others have done things much more methodical than I.
I can’t go back in time.
I don’t want to change what I have done, even though the pressures tell me I did it wrong.
It was right for me.
I had no delusions of grandeur to be famous like Stephen King.
That is not why I wrote my story.
Which brings me to Jesus.
He is the one who is my mentor.
From him, I learned to BE loved.
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I spend time with him, every day and learn something new when I pay attention.
Many people have preconceived ideas of God that I want to shatter. The Pursuer shattered mine.
God loves us, wildly, tenderly and unconditionally. Coming to know that has changed my life forever.
That is why I wrote my story. And that is why I want to get it into the hands of those who need to know they are that deeply loved.
That is why I write here.
That is why I have started my next book…
There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.
…it may take me a while – I’m a slow bleeder.
I will continue to learn the best ways to do things and implement what fits. Maybe I’ll have book launching plan this next time around.
I still have so much to learn.
So where is YOUR desk?
Are you dealing with pressure to be something other than what you are?
Do you know how infinitely loved you are?
Let me know in the comments or send me an email.
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