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When Life Is a Roller Coaster Ride Hold Onto Enough

I’m not a huge fan of roller coasters but I like certain ones. I don’t like the steep vertical drops. The tick tick tick tick sound as it slowly creeps up into the sky looking like I’m being jettisoned into space unnerves me. My heart pounds anticipating the drop to come. The fear locks my […]

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Fear Detox: How to Choose Love

Just like two weeks ago, today my writing didn’t go as planned. I had two other drafts before this one. What was my problem? Well, last week I said I’d talk about the love I mentioned at the end of the article. The love in the manifesto. The love in my book. The love that […]

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO “BE SEEN”? (Many Benefits)

I have been working on my Manifesto for many weeks now. It’s my statement of purpose of why I write and why anyone would be interested. The plan is to publish it next week. The title is Love’s Manifesto: to be seen, to be known, and to be loved into wholeness. The first part of […]

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How To Get The Support You Need

I made up a word today. I do that sometimes. I made up the word pondery*. This morning I was pondery. A photo grabbed my attention. One of our grandson walking together with me and my husband on South Mountain in Arizona. The frame is inscribed with the words Grandparents fill the world with love. […]

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How To Put It Back Together When Your Heart Breaks

Last year was rough for many people. This year didn’t waste any time dishing out difficulty in my life. January first was an emotional day. I had one family member in the ER and another taking a larger step toward death. I wrote about it in the article Are You Emotionally Ready For The Unexpected. […]

WHAT IS YOUR INNER ORCHESTRA PLAYING?

As I write this, my mother-in-law is on the edge of eternity. My husband and I went last night to say our final goodbyes. Whenever any of us encounter death the questions surrounding who we are, and what happens after we breathe our last, come rising up inside of us. Some have learned to shove […]

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Are You Emotionally Ready for the Unexpected?

The New Year has arrived. How is it going for you? Is it all you hoped? Are your plans going well? What if something messes up your plans? Are you emotionally prepared for that? Entering the New Year I had my goals in place. I was excited. I had a great post started full of […]

THE MOST AMAZING WAY TO HELP YOURSELF

Do you ever get stuck in your own stuff? Can’t see through the fog of too much to do or too many emotions? I was reminded of that the other day and remembered something that helped me. It started with a quote and led to an action, which took me to a change inside of […]

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How To Be Vulnerable And Naked (“The Beautiful Mask”)

It happened on May 7, 2014. I will never forget the moment. Sitting there, at my kitchen table, staring at my laptop. My palms were sweaty, my heart was racing and my hands were shaking. Terrified to the core I did it. One push of my index finger was all it took to change my […]

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Powerful Help for When Holidays Hurt

Emotional pain around a holiday has many sources. The emotions will sideline us if we fail to address them. I was reminded of that this past weekend. Both of the pain and the tools I needed to use. I got the turkey Sunday. Monday I had a meltdown. The night before my heart had broken […]