You are enough

Fear Detox: How to Choose Love

Just like two weeks ago, today my writing didn’t go as planned. I had two other drafts before this one. What was my problem? Well, last week I said I’d talk about the love I mentioned at the end of the article. The love in the manifesto. The love in my book. The love that […]

Emotionally hiding

Why We Hide Emotionally (2 things we need)

I had a different topic in mind for today but I woke up feeling strange. Have you ever done that? Just felt weird inside. I found a vague sense of discontent rolling around inside me. I responded with what I believed would fix my problem. Gratitude. I practiced some gratitude. Looked for reasons to be […]

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7 Benefits to Vulnerability & Connection

Last week I talked about how together is better, tapping into community, and what it takes to access the support we need. How we need to make ourselves vulnerable. Speak up. Allow ourselves to be seen. But is it just about getting support? Reaching out for help is good. Getting the help we need after […]

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How To Get The Support You Need

I made up a word today. I do that sometimes. I made up the word pondery*. This morning I was pondery. A photo grabbed my attention. One of our grandson walking together with me and my husband on South Mountain in Arizona. The frame is inscribed with the words Grandparents fill the world with love. […]

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How To Put It Back Together When Your Heart Breaks

Last year was rough for many people. This year didn’t waste any time dishing out difficulty in my life. January first was an emotional day. I had one family member in the ER and another taking a larger step toward death. I wrote about it in the article Are You Emotionally Ready For The Unexpected. […]

Just say NO

How To Use Your NO To Change Your Life

Life is full of obstacles and throws curveballs at us. It happens to everyone. How you deal with it determines what happens next. Will you allow it to destroy you? Or will you exhibit the determination and persistence seen in many a toddler? Will you slam your foot down saying NO! and refuse to quit […]

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Powerful Help for When Holidays Hurt

Emotional pain around a holiday has many sources. The emotions will sideline us if we fail to address them. I was reminded of that this past weekend. Both of the pain and the tools I needed to use. I got the turkey Sunday. Monday I had a meltdown. The night before my heart had broken […]

GOD DIDN’T DO THAT!!

This week has been rough in many ways. So much tragedy has gone on and it breaks my heart. I am reminded of my post Emotional Hockey by Moonlight, how I was at a loss for words. Today I have to speak up. I have read many articles and blog posts by people speaking out […]

When It’s Dark Inside

Last week I wrote on laughter. This week’s topic is totally different. Funny how things can change so quickly and deeply. Not funny haha like that post on laughing – but funny as in strange and unexpected. I want to tell you about a day I had this week. Maybe you have had a day […]

You are not alone

The Price of Love

I was working on a post with a different topic but the bittersweetness of today begs to be shared. “We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey”. Kenji Miyazawa It is my mother in law Ann’s 80th birthday. She has Alzheimer’s. I hate Alzheimer’s. But I love Ann. So I’m going to […]