trauma is personal


Are you familiar with the term “the feels”? If not, it simply means emotions. Today I got the “feels” as it is the anniversary…of a particular trauma in my life.

“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”

Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, and the Love That Heals

That is the most quoted portion of my book.

I discovered memes made by others all over the internet. To me, that shows how it resonates with people.

Does it resonate with YOU?


I suffered multiple traumas in my childhood.

They were never addressed as a child and as children often do, I hid many of them.

Others were discounted.

Because of those things, there was a silent pretending that the injuries did not occur. That was a lie.

While I was writing my book I acquired the needed validation. That validation along with someone entering my pain changed my life.

Have you received needed validation?

Have you had someone enter your pain?

Have you ever entered someone else’s pain?


This song tells how to do that and how #healinghappenstogether

If you want to love someone:

Today is a day of revisiting trauma in my life.

Four years ago I almost lost my daughter and the life of her unborn child was in question.

That was traumatic for me in many ways.

It was also traumatic for my daughter, as well as her husband and many others too.

So today, that is on my mind – Trauma Is Personal. Each of us goes through things that wound us and change us. How and if we heal determines who we become.

How and if we heal determines who we become.

Yesterday I came across a meme that spoke to me at first. But then I wasn’t sure if I agreed after mulling it over in my mind.

It said something to the effect that for a wound to heal you have to stop touching it. I thought about when you get a scab and if you pick it that it will not heal or will take a longer time while leaving a scar.

But on the other hand, when an injury occurs to our bodies we have to address it. We cannot just leave it. There are many ways that wounds need to be addressed, varying from a simple

We cannot just leave it. There are many ways that wounds need to be addressed, varying from a simple

There are many ways that wounds need to be addressed, varying from a simple band-aid to surgery. And if surgery occurs there is always a need for follow-up.

Likewise the soul.

When we are wounded in our soul (mind, emotions, spirit) we need to address it.

Some do not support this and call it morbid introspection or naval gazing.

There was a time when I believed them and therefore shoved the feelings underground. They are wrong.


You cannot heal what you do not address.

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”― Kahlil Gibran


Yes, there comes a time when healing has come and the wound is a memory or scar – but only if tended to properly with love.

Do you need some validation to heal?

Will you share and allow others to enter your pain so you can heal on the insides?

Share your thoughts in the comments! #healinghappenstogether


 “I’ve loved you with an everlasting love, therefore I’ve drawn you with gracious love.”

Jeremiah 31:3 ISV

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