A healthy vibrant inner life does not happen by accident. The inner life has needs. These needs are ongoing. Just like your body burns the fuel you feed it and you must eat again, likewise your inner life. Both need nutrients and reflect what they consume.
Your outer life (the things you do) is a reflection of what is going on inside of you (inner life). In your thoughts, feelings, choices, and beliefs. It can be easy to feel and subsequently think you have no choice in this crazy busy world we live in. But that is simply not true. Those feelings are lying to you.
Your inner life belongs to you. You DO have power.
There may be things happening around you that you cannot control. But within you, there is a thing called choice giving you the power to respond. Having the power to respond instead of reacting comes out of a healthy vibrant inner life.A healthy vibrant inner life does not happen by accident. Click To Tweet
Here are nutrients your inner life needs
It operates like a pilot light for your sense of humor. You feed your inner life this joy-laughter through playing and having fun. To better understand read Getting Your Inner Laugh Back. #DontForgetToLaugh
Life giving words
Words are powerful. They can build up and they can tear down. Negative, destructive words deplete the inner life. Truthful positive, encouraging words contain life and make you strong. The world force feeds much negativity. Feeding on life-giving words requires intention. You can identify what you need by listening to how you talk. I have learned it is “out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks”. When I started to listen to what came out of my mouth I found it revealing. To better understand read How Do You MIND? Ask Your Mouth and 5 Ways Encouragement Is Powerful.
The world is a noisy place. This creeps in, turning your inner life into a noisy place as well. One evidence of this is sleep problems. You need time alone with your thoughts. Times of quietness to decompress from the busyness of life and/or new experiences. Some people need more time than others. If you are an introvert you will need more than an extrovert will.
This may seem to contradict the above need for time alone. It does not. You need both. They work together. You need people. You need support. You need to know you are loved and feel like you belong. Online communities are good but you need face to face relationships too.
Humans cannot live without love. The need is inherent. The Pursuer created you to receive love and to give love. How do you feed love to your inner life? By practicing self-care. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself. Remind yourself how much God loves you. Take proper care of yourself by getting sleep, eating well, doing things you enjoy and even celebrating yourself. To better understand read Celebrate Yourself.
This can be challenging at first to cultivate if it is a foreign thought. This is not self-absorption. This is not self-preoccupation. This complements self-care. It is listening to yourself: what you are thinking, what you are saying, what you believe etc. It is paying attention to what you need to do for yourself. It is noticing how you feel and addressing the need instead of avoiding it. It is knowing when it’s time to return to your comfort zone. I learned this the hard way. To better understand read 3 Things You Need When Leaving Your Comfort Zone.
This is made up of faith and hope. It takes time to develop strong trust. It is built. Worry, ruminating and betrayal tear down trust. Having a healthy trust muscle empowers you: to find meaning in failure, to have a silver lining mentality, and to believe things will work out when something goes awry. Having strong trust in The Pursuer gives you deep roots.
Just as humans need to receive love the inverse is also true. You need to give out, serve, and sometimes personally sacrifice for others. The saying “it’s better to give than to receive” is true. This feeds the sense of purpose you need.
The inner life cannot stagnate or you start to die inside. It is a living thing and living things grow. You need to keep learning. Your mind needs to be challenged. It needs problems to solve, things to figure out. Your emotions need to be listened to and addressed. They need the exercise of leaving and returning to the comfort zone. They need to practice forgiveness. Your will needs to exercise choices. Your spirit needs to exercise faith.
I call theses 9 things “nutrients” because they nourish you.
Sounds like a good satisfying meal.
Precisely what your inner life needs.
Just as healthy food gives life to the body, feeding on theses 9 nutrients will create an inner vibrancy.Just as healthy food gives life to the body, feeding on theses 9 nutrients will create an inner… Click To Tweet
Where do you want to start? I challenge you to pick at least one from the “menu” and provide a feast for your inner life today.
Go read the menu again and order as many as you like.
Let me know which one (or ones) you ordered off the menu in the comments.
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